The Marriage Reality

There are a couple of things I love talking about:  traveling (Europe!!), food / cooking, movies and comedy, art/music/culture, and sex & relationships.  I love when Yahoo puts out articles relating to these topics too, especially the last one.  I find them fascinating, and I guess coming from a large, loud, loving, always-around-no-matter-what Italian family gives my perspective on relationships and such a slightly different twist, but I still enjoy learning more.  I always feel the more you know about something the better equipped you are to deal with situations you find yourself facing in the future.  


All that said, this article on yahoo highlighted 10 things couples can expect during that famous "first year" of marriage.  Am I married?  Nope.  But a lot of my friends are on that track and / or discussing it, looking down that road, in relationships, etc, so it's definitely pertinent.  I think the article makes a good point on certain topics.  You won't always be happy, ergo you will go to bed mad sometimes.  Your sex life will ebb and flow, but you'll probably be more in tune with each other and find it gets better over time because you know one another.  Couples still find themselves falling into "traditional" roles, even if it wasn't always set up that way in the beginning, and you do not magically become rich just because you're working with two incomes.  All of these are great points, and the article was fun in the way it laid it out for the reader.  I think sometimes today people just want the fairy tale and they're too quick to want to rid themselves of a situation the minute it gets challenging.  You can blame the fast-paced society, or the instant-gratification mentality, or the cultural phenomenon of divorce on a whim, or whatever else you want, but the truth is sometimes people just aren't adequately prepared for what comes down the road, especially in relationships.  Maybe part of it is because when it's happening to us it seems more monumental than when friends discuss what happened to them, but still, the more you know the better prepared you are to deal with life as it hits you.  And who knows, maybe you'll surprise yourself by your reaction to the article.  Happy reading!